3 Things I Should Have Told My Mom Before She Died


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She told me many things about life and growing up. She told me to smile and learn to appreciate what I have. My mom told me I can achieve anything I want in this world. I retorted back with much disappointments and repugnance. I’m going to miss you a lot and will be very lonely, she said in tears as she serves me my breakfast. I’ll come back soon or may be you should consider leaving our hometown and live with me, now that I’m starting to work, I replied. She smiled and told me how much she loved me. She said again in tears and hugged me before I leave. I thought, she was melodramatic and that was the last time I saw my mother alive.

My relationship with my mother was never perfect, however deep down in our heart we loved each other. Now that she is far away from me and never answered no matter how loud I shout, I realized all the many things how I wish I should have told my mom before she died. Like Harriet Beecher Stowe said  “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone”.  So, don’t take chances, go tell your mother how much you love her before it’s too late. Consider it as a little push from my side if your loving mother is still alive, because I don’t want you to regret it like me. There are thousand things in my head, but these are the three main things I wish I should have told my mother when she was still alive.

I Love You: Three words that can be taken for granted or said easily without meaning, yet very difficult to spill out these three magic words to the person you love so much. My excuses of not saying these words was that, Off-course she is my mother, I loved her and she knows it, so why do I need to say?? But I didn’t realized how much it means to hear those words from the one you love. So mom , sorry If I didn’t tell you – I LOVE YOU more than anything else in this world.

Thank you: My mother had a rough start of married life with many children, yet she was the strongest and most patient woman I ever met in my life. She worked day and night like she never felt tired just to pay my school tuition fees, buy me new clothes on my birthday and buy me vitamins because she thought that I was too thin. I can’t thank you enough for all you did. Thank you so much for the wonderful massage you gave me in the middle of the night, because I had pain on my legs as a result of playing 1,2,3 & UP the whole weekend. How I wish I should have told you at least THANK YOU before you left the world.

I Need You Always: She told me I’m grown up now and I can take decisions about my life when I was in my Uni, but the truth is I am all faking it. I still need to call her when my friends hurt me unintentionally, when I’m stressed or when I have a guest in my house and need to prepare some food. And, the worst is that, I thought I was so ready to be an independent woman without needing my mother’s advice and love. How I wish she could have witnessed the day I married to a guy I love. So, the fact is no matter how old I may be, I’m not at all done needing you.



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  1. I really have tears in my eyes now. We all love our mother but sometimes ee fail to make her realise. Nice post, very emotional!!
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    shivani 1 May 2016
  2. Aww Honey thank you so much, glad you liked it!

    Hope you had a wonderful weekend.

    Kisses Ashon

    ashonfashionary 1 May 2016
  3. Hi Ashon,
    Thank you so much for sharing this post. I so needed it? I can really relate myself with your post as many a times I hesitate saying those 3 magical words to my parents. Especially to my dad whom I can not even say “I miss you” although I really do. Well with mom I still say I miss you and I love you in my dialect but that hesitation to say it out in English is truly a fight. But whatsoever I’m going to do it anyway from now on, because I don’t wanna regret this someday when they’re going or vice versa ??
    Ps: you write so beautiful ❤️

    Wemese Angam 1 May 2016
  4. This was so very emotional to read!! You are so brave and strong love! Thank you for sharing this personal story! 🙂 xo


    Alifya 1 May 2016
  5. I can only imagine how hard it was to write this post and this is very brave of you! I am so sorry for your lost but I am sure your mother appreciates it and will constantly be your guardian angel!


    Rach 2 May 2016
  6. Thank you so much love for your kind words! yes it might be hard, but you can always write a text sms or letter, just make sure you do before it’s too late.

    Kisses Ashon

    ashonfashionary 2 May 2016
  7. Thank you so much love !

    Kisses Ashon

    ashonfashionary 2 May 2016
  8. Thank you so much for your kind words!

    Hugs Ashon

    ashonfashionary 2 May 2016
  9. Such an amotional post; we often don;t realize how important those magical words are . Hope you are having a nice day.

    Nina 2 May 2016
  10. What an emotional read! Wow. I can’t imagine how difficult it was to write this post. It must be terrible to lose your mom.


    Alecz 2 May 2016
  11. very emotion! great article dear
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    tr3ndygirl 2 May 2016
  12. This is beautifully Ashon, I’m sure your mother appreciates this and is watching over you. <3

  13. Wow, this is such an open and inspiring post Ashon. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. How beautiful.

    Much love,
    Marianne x http://www.beautiful-in-essence.blogspot.com

    Marianne Sophia 3 May 2016
  14. Beautiful post! This is your letter to your mom, wherever she is. And if you feel the need, write another…
    It is indeed so difficult to get the 3 letter word ‘I love you’ over ones lips although it seems so easy… and I can’t explain why, really

    LifeStyleTalks 3 May 2016
  15. Such an emotional post, I am filling up. Thank you for sharing ..

    Claire 3 May 2016
  16. So sweet and very touching dear. I feel your love for your mother in your words


    Leftbankgirl 3 May 2016
  17. I bet she just heard every word you said! Have to be thankful for the memories!!

    Xox Dana Ivy // http://www.iadorewhatilove.com

    Dana Ivy 4 May 2016
  18. I am proud of You. Love You forever my Treasure. May God be within You.

    Lukas 5 May 2016
  19. Atao…..read over and over again….thank you for sharing the unsaid untold moment we missed to share with our dearest Mom…..I truly miss both of them….urs and mine !!! They are strongest person Indeed ….let’s unite alwys in our prayer no matter how far we stay apart a million miles …..I miss u gal my fren …..hope we meet very soon…till then stay precious !!my gorgeous Ngalovi…

  20. Thank you so much atao. M sure you can understand me better than no one <3 Love you and let's stay strong always.

    Hugs Ashon

    ashonfashionary 5 May 2016
  21. I can’t stop tearing up. I’m so sorry about your loss. I lost my mom as well and though I did tell her I loved her, I never got to say those other things and more. This is such a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing this.

    Lili 6 May 2016
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  23. So sorry to hear about your mom. I lost mine as well a little over a year ago and have a lot of these same feelings. Even though you don’t feel like you said I love you often enough, she knows you loved her. <3

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    Annessa 6 June 2016

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